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You can also call The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 TDD: 1-800-787-3224
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We are a full-service family law firm that exclusively offers comprehensive representation for all areas of Divorce, Paternity and Domestic Violence issues. Partner Nancy Dahan was admitted to the California State Bar in 1988 and has since been practicing Family Law in Los Angeles and Orange County Courts and partner Kathleen Brown has been a family court law attorney since 1995.
- 19100 Von Karman
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- Physically hurting or trying to hurt someone, intentionally or recklessly;
- Sexual assault;
- Making someone reasonably afraid that they or someone else are about to be seriously hurt (like threats or promises to harm someone); OR
- Behavior like harassing, stalking, threatening, or hitting someone; disturbing someone’s peace; or destroying someone’s personal property.
KNOW THE ATTORNEYS IN YOUR COUNTY
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BROWN | DAHAN
We are a full-service family law firm that exclusively offers comprehensive representation for all areas of Divorce, Paternity and Domestic Violence issues. Partner Nancy Dahan was admitted to the California State Bar in 1988 and has since been practicing Family Law in Los Angeles and Orange County Courts and partner Kathleen Brown has been a family court law attorney since 1995.
- 19100 Von Karman
Suite 380
Irvine, CA 92612 - Phone: 949-541-5866
Domestic Violence Restraining Orders
A domestic violence restraining order is a court order that helps protect people from abuse or threats of abuse from someone they have a close relationship with. You can ask for a domestic violence restraining order if:
A person has abused (or threatened to abuse) you; AND
You have a close relationship with that person. You are:
- Married or registered domestic partners,
- Divorced or separated,
- Dating or used to date,
- Living together or used to live together(more than roommates),
- Parents together of a child, OR
- Closely related (parent, child, brother, sister, grandmother, grandfather, in-law).
If you are a parent and your child is being abused, you can also file a restraining order on behalf of your child to protect your child (and you and other family members). If your child is 12 or older, he or she can file the restraining order on his or her own.If you do not qualify for a domestic violence restraining order, there are other kinds of orders you can ask for:
- Civil harassment restraining order (can be used for neighbors, roommates, coworkers, or more distant family members like cousins, uncle or aunt, etc.). Find more information on getting a civil harassment restraining order
- Elder or dependent adult abuse restraining order (if the person being abused is 65 or older; or between 18 and 64 and a dependent adult). Find more information on getting an elder or dependent adult abuse restraining order
- Workplace violence restraining order (filed by an employer to protect an employee from violence, stalking, or harassment by another person). Find more information on getting a workplace violence restraining order
If you are not sure what kind of restraining order you should get, talk to a lawyer. For help finding a lawyer<. Also, your court’s family law facilitator or may be able to help you. And your may also be able to help you or refer you to someone who can.If you live in an Indian tribal community or reservation, the tribe may have resources to assist you. If there is a tribal court, the court may be able to give you a protective order. Click for more information on tribal courts
KNOW THE ATTORNEYS IN YOUR COUNTY
FIGHTING FOR YOUR RIGHTS
BROWN | DAHAN
We are a full-service family law firm that exclusively offers comprehensive representation for all areas of Divorce, Paternity and Domestic Violence issues. Partner Nancy Dahan was admitted to the California State Bar in 1988 and has since been practicing Family Law in Los Angeles and Orange County Courts and partner Kathleen Brown has been a family court law attorney since 1995.
- 19100 Von Karman
Suite 380
Irvine, CA 92612 - Phone: 949-541-5866
Healing is Possible
More than one-third of U.S. women (35.6 percent) have experienced rape, physical violence or stalking by an intimate partner during their lifetime, according to a recent survey by the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control.
What a restraining order CAN do.
A restraining order is a court order. It can order the restrained person to:
- Not contact or go near you, your children, other relatives, or others who live with you;
- Stay away from your home, work, or your children’s schools;
- Move out of your house (even if you live together);
- Not have a gun;
- Follow child custody and visitation orders;
- Pay child support;
- Pay spousal or partner support (if you are married or domestic partners);
- Stay away from any of your pets;
- Transfer the rights to a cell phone number and account to the protected person ();
- Pay certain bills;
- Not make any changes to insurance policies;
- Not incur large expenses or do anything significant to affect your or the other person’s property if you are married or domestic partners;
- Release or return certain property; and
- Complete a 52-week batterer intervention program.
Once the court issues (makes) a restraining order, the order is entered into a statewide computer system (called CLETS) that all law enforcement officers have access to. And your restraining order works anywhere in the United States. If you move out of California, contact your new local police so they will know about your orders.
If you move to California with a restraining order from another state, or if you have a restraining order issued by a tribal court (in California or elsewhere in the U.S.), your restraining order will be valid anywhere in California and the police will enforce it. If you want your restraining order to be entered into California’s statewide domestic violence computer system, you can register your order with the court. Fill out and take an Order to Register Out-of-State or Tribal Court Protective/Restraining Order (CLETS) (
Form DV-600) to your local court. Take a certified copy of your order with you. But keep in mind that you are not required to register your out-of-state or tribal court restraining order. A valid order is enforceable even if you do not register it.
What a restraining order CANNOT do
A restraining order cannot:
- End your marriage or domestic partnership. It is NOT a divorce.
- Establish parentage (paternity) of your children with the restrained person (if you are not married to, or in a domestic partnership with, him or her) UNLESS you and the restrained person agree to parentage of your child or children and agree to the court entering a judgment about parentage. Read and use Agreement and Judgment of Parentage ( Form DV-180) to do this.
Read the section Divorce and Legal Separation for information on getting divorced or legally separated.
Read the section Parentage for information on parentage (paternity) when the parents of a child are not married and are not domestic partners.
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We are a full-service family law firm that exclusively offers comprehensive representation for all areas of Divorce, Paternity and Domestic Violence issues. Partner Nancy Dahan was admitted to the California State Bar in 1988 and has since been practicing Family Law in Los Angeles and Orange County Courts and partner Kathleen Brown has been a family court law attorney since 1995.
- 19100 Von Karman
Suite 380
Irvine, CA 92612 - Phone: 949-541-5866
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Effect of a restraining order on the restrained person
For the person to be restrained, the consequences of having a court order against him or her can be very severe.
- He or she will not be able to go to certain places or to do certain things.
- He or she might have to move out of his or her home.
- It may affect his or her ability to see his or her children.
- He or she will generally not be able to own a gun. (He or she will have to turn in, sell or store any firearms he or she has, and will not be able to buy a gun while the restraining order is in effect.)
- The restraining order may affect his or her immigration status. If you are worried about this, talk to an immigration lawyer to find out if you will be affected.
If the person to be restrained violates the restraining order, he or she may go to jail, or pay a fine, or both.
Types of Domestic Violence Restraining Orders
Emergency Protective Order (EPO)
An EPO is a type of restraining order that only law enforcement can ask for by calling a judge. Judges are available to issue EPOs 24 hours a day. So, a police officer that answers a domestic violence call can ask a judge for an emergency protective order at any time of the day or night.
The emergency protective order starts right away and can last up to 7 days. The judge can order the abusive person to leave the home and stay away from the victim and any children for up to a week. That gives the victim of the abuse enough time to go to court to file for a temporary restraining order.
To get an order that lasts longer than an EPO, you must ask the court for a temporary restraining order (also called a “TRO”).
Temporary Restraining Order (TRO)
When you go to court to ask for a domestic violence restraining order, you fill out paperwork where you tell the judge everything that has happened and why you need a restraining order. If the judge believes you need protection, he or she will give you a temporary restraining order.
Temporary restraining orders usually last between 20 and 25 days, until the court hearing date.
“Permanent” Restraining Order
When you go to court for the hearing that was scheduled for your TRO, the judge may issue a “permanent” restraining order. They are not really “permanent” because they usually last up to 5 years.
At the end of those 5 years (or whenever your order runs out), you can ask for a new restraining order so you remain protected.
Criminal Protective Order or “Stay-Away” Order
Sometimes, when there is a domestic violence incident (or series of incidents), the district attorney will file criminal charges against the abuser. This starts a criminal court case going. It is common for the criminal court to issue a criminal protective order against the defendant (the person who is committing the violence and abuse) while the criminal case is going on, and, if the defendant is found guilty or pleads guilty, for 3 years after the case is over.
To learn more about criminal protective orders, read How does a Criminal Protective Order help me? And if there is a criminal protective order against you, read A Criminal Protective Order was issued against me.
The Restraining Order Process
When someone asks for a domestic violence restraining order in court, they have to file court forms telling the judge what orders they want and why. What happens after that varies a little from court to court, but the general steps in the court case are:
- The person wanting protection files court forms asking for the domestic violence restraining order. There is NO fee to file.
- The judge will decide whether or not to make the order by the next business day. Sometimes the judge decides sooner.
- If the judge grants (gives) the orders requested, he or she will first make “temporary” orders that only last until your court date. The court date will be on the paperwork. These temporary orders can include issues like:
- Ordering the restrained person to stay away and have no contact with the protected person (and other protected people and family pets);
- Child custody;
- Who can use the family home; or
- Who can use other property, like a car.
- The person asking for protection will have to “serve” the other person with a copy of all the restraining order papers before the court date. This means that someone 18 or older (NOT involved in the case) must hand-deliver a copy of all the papers to the restrained person.
- The restrained person has the right to file an answer to the restraining order request, explaining his or her side of the story.
- Both sides go to the court hearing.
- If the protected person does not go to the hearing, the temporary restraining order will usually end that day and there will not be a restraining order.
- If the restrained person does not go to the hearing, he or she will have no input in the case and his or her side of the story will not be taken into account.
- At the hearing, the judge will decide to continue or cancel the temporary restraining order. If the judge decides to extend the temporary order, the “permanent” order may last for up to 5 years.
- If the judge also makes other orders in the restraining order, like child custody or child support orders, these orders will have different end dates and usually will last until the child turns 18 or a judge changes them.
Read Asking for a Domestic Violence Restraining Order for detailed instructions on how to ask for a domestic violence restraining order.
Read Responding to a Domestic Violence Restraining Order for detailed instructions on how to answer a request for a domestic violence restraining order.
Getting Help
You do not need a lawyer to ask for (or respond to) a restraining order. BUT it is a good idea to have a lawyer, especially if you have children.
The court process can be confusing and intimidating. Both people will have to see each other in court, and both will have to tell the judge details of what happened in a public courtroom. Having a lawyer or (for the protected person) support from domestic violence experts can help make the process easier to handle.
For the person asking for protection
Most cities and counties have domestic violence help centers, shelters, or legal aid agencies that help people ask for a restraining order. These services are usually free or very low cost. If you are the person asking for a restraining order, look for help in your area before you try to do it on your own.
Click for local domestic violence legal help.
Your court’s family law facilitator or self-help center may also be able to help you with the restraining order, or at least with any child support or spousal/partner support issues you may have.
If you live in an Indian tribal community or reservation, the tribe may also have a Tribal Advocate and other resources to help you. Read “What Is a Tribal Advocate?” for more information.
For the person responding to a restraining order
It is more difficult to find free or low-cost legal help if you are responding to a request for a domestic violence restraining order. But you should still try since legal aid agencies have different guidelines, and your local bar association may have a volunteer lawyer program that can help you. Click for help finding a lawyer.
Your court’s family law facilitator or self-help center may also be able to help you respond to the restraining order. If they cannot help with the restraining order, they can at least help you with any child support or spousal/partner support issues you may have.
Other Resources
For victims of domestic violence
1-800-799-7233
TDD: 1-800-787-3224
Call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. They can help you in more than 100 languages. It is free and private.The National Domestic Violence Hotline links you to the following resources in your community:
- Domestic violence shelters
- Emergency shelters
- Legal help
- Social service programs
The website also provides a lot of information to help you and your children stay safe and get protection.
This site lists help by county, like:
- Women’s shelters
- Domestic violence programs
- Victim witness assistance programs
- Counseling services for victims of domestic violence
- Crisis hotlines
- Resources for Family Violence in Tribal Communities in California
- Provides resources for you to get help with domestic violence issues if you live in an Indian tribal community or reservation.
For child abuse
- Child Protective Services Abuse Reporting Telephone Numbers
List of Child Protective Services abuse reporting telephone numbers for every California county. - LawHelpCalifornia Child Abuse/Neglect
Resources and referrals from California legal aid organizations.
For perpetrators of domestic violence
- California Department of Public Health Violence Prevention Resource Directory
This site lists help by county. - If you need an “approved” batterer intervention program, contact your county probation department. Click here to find your local Probation Department.
For teens in domestic violence situations
- Love: the good, the bad and the ugly
- Date Rape
Posted by the National Crime Prevention Council’s Online Resources Center.
For victims of sex
- National Sexual Assault Hotline1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
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We are a full-service family law firm that exclusively offers comprehensive representation for all areas of Divorce, Paternity and Domestic Violence issues. Partner Nancy Dahan was admitted to the California State Bar in 1988 and has since been practicing Family Law in Los Angeles and Orange County Courts and partner Kathleen Brown has been a family court law attorney since 1995.
- 19100 Von Karman
Suite 380
Irvine, CA 92612 - Phone: 949-541-5866
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BROWN | DAHAN
We are a full-service family law firm that exclusively offers comprehensive representation for all areas of Divorce, Paternity and Domestic Violence issues. Partner Nancy Dahan was admitted to the California State Bar in 1988 and has since been practicing Family Law in Los Angeles and Orange County Courts and partner Kathleen Brown has been a family court law attorney since 1995.
- 19100 Von Karman
Suite 380
Irvine, CA 92612 - Phone: 949-541-5866